While extroverts gain energy by socializing and being around people, introverts gain energy by being alone--and lose energy by being around people. Half of the American population is introverted. It's not wrong, it's not weird, and it's not stupid. It's just how we are. And though introverts certainly aren't better than extroverts, it still stands true that America (among other societies) praises outgoing, outspoken behavior and it's sometimes nice to be reminded that we aren't alone.
So, this blog is dedicated to the many problems we introverts face on a daily basis while living in an extrovert-based society. Enjoy. :)
Haha! I think it’s probably possible that INFJs are just a little more vocal about it. Probably because we spend so long thinking we’re weird or different, so when we actually find validation, like through MBTI, we get really excited about it and proud of our type. And I think our type is generally more prone than some others to take a test like that in the first place. :)
That’s awesome! I’ve never really had that before.
I absolutely believe you. That’s so intense!! I don’t think I’ve had something like this happen, but I do remember several cases of my family being terrified of a crisis happening and me being like, “Dude, nothing bad is gonna happen, I know it.” The only time I didn’t have that feeling was when my dad got in a car accident and before we even knew anything, I was thinking on the way to the hospital, “This is going to change all our lives. Something is very wrong.” My dad ended up being paralyzed after that.
And there were also several times in high school when I would turn to my friend and say, “…I feel like there’s going be a fire drill today.” I still remember the look she gave me each time the fire alarm went off those days lol.
If you go to the blog page, there’s a page on there labeled “MBTI” and it’ll give you the link there. :)
That’s definitely true, and I can back that up with my own experiences. Most of the time, I just know certain things are going to happen, but it’s usually social, and I only know that because, being an INFJ, I subconsciously pick up certain social cues that others miss. BUT. I have had “feelings” that have ended up being true, and I’ve even had a few dreams that have happened the next day.
…that’s really weird, and I feel like no one will believe me lol. But yeah. Any other INFJs experience this? Or any other types?
So glad you like it! One of my really good friends is INTP! Sherlock Holmes is also INTP, and being a really huge Sherlock fan, I’m a little jealous of that…;)
I have struggled with depression before, for that very reason. I actually grew up and spent half my life in a borderline cult that shamed people for being introverted or different in any way, and it took me a LONG time to detox from that and accept myself.
INFJs in general are actually more prone to depression than many other types, but that does not mean that it is inevitable or hopeless. Honestly, it is not something to mess with. Please, please, please, seek help when you feel the desire to hurt yourself, or even when you just feel depressed, because you are worth so so so much more than you feel. Believe me: this situation is not all there is. You will get past this. I did.
You are beautiful and deep and so valuable simply because your heart beats, and your value does not depend on another’s acceptance of you. You’re an INFJ; you feel so deeply, and this is a good thing, but sometimes your soul feels sick, and your mind turns against itself. But you are more valuable than you feel.
I know this is kind of cheesy, but in the wise words of one of my favorite bands, Twenty One Pilots:
"Fight it. Take the pain, ignite it. Tie a noose around your mind, loose enough to breathe fine and tie it to a tree, tell it ‘you belong to me, this ain’t a noose, this is a leash, and I have news for you, you must obey me.”
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Personal space is definitely important!